• Deborah

My 10 Daily Goals For A Balanced Life

Updated: May 12, 2020

Creating, Writing, And Reading Your Goals Reinforces Your Daily Focus For Balance.

Balance. I have been teaching my children ever since they were young how challenging creating a balanced life is. They were in such a hurry to grow up. Weren’t we all? I remember thinking about the freedom to create my own rules and do whatever I wanted. It sounded so blissful.

I endeavored to focus my children on creating a balanced life while they were in their teen years. We have so much energy and passion when we’re young, it’s hard to deal with it all! At this age, we are in training to become happy, successful, and productive members of society.

I remember it as being a very confusing time. A time of struggle. I have found that as we get older, it doesn’t get any easier. As we get older, most of us start our own families and have other people to consider, too. We have other people to be concerned about when making big decisions, not just ourselves. If we stumble and fall, we just might take our loved ones with us. Truly living life takes courage. You have to have confidence in yourself that no matter what happens, you will be okay.

I certainly realize that having a balanced life will definitely mean different things to different people. If you’ve read my biography, then you will know that I have had more than my fair share of curve-balls that life has thrown at me. To stay sane, I have had to create a life for myself that puts the odds in my favor of having a balanced and fulfilling journey.

A great deal of my life has been one of learning to graciously accept the changes and learn from them. But, change can also create stress and pain. The key for me is not to avoid the changes, but to learn how to deal with them when they arrive. Do the work, learn from the changes, then go sit down somewhere and take some time to recover and contemplate the experience.

So, my interpretation of a balanced life will probably be different than your idea of a balanced life. That’s okay, we celebrate our uniqueness. :)

From my experience, it is helpful to have rules for yourself. Forget what everyone else is doing, ask yourself how you will navigate the world while on your Spiritual Journey? Keep in mind that as you learn and grow in wisdom, these rules will most likely change or at least need tweaking. I will share my daily goals with you.

My 10 Daily Goals to create a balanced life:

1) Preparing for the day ahead: I choose to begin each day with gratitude. I will expect little miracles and the best from the day.

2) I choose to think, create, and view everything from a Love perspective. (I make no room for fear in my life). This means I must live a life that springs from the Love within, including for myself. I cannot give what I do not possess.

3) I choose to take time each day to walk in and celebrate nature in order to nourish my Spirit and meditate with God. I will contemplate the beauty and wonder around me.

4) I choose to accept things the way they really are, not how I’d like them to be.

5) I will choose to remind myself that there are no mistakes, only experiences. With God, I can handle whatever the day brings. I control my acceptance of challenges and difficulties. I will embrace the lessons that will follow.

6) I choose to give Love without expecting anything in return. By expecting nothing, I will never be disappointed.

7) I choose to live in the present, live in this reality. I’m here for a reason. I have a mission and I will do my best to fulfill it.

8) I choose to always be honest and truthful with others but especially with myself. Honesty begins with me. Being deceptive, manipulative, or dishonest is based on fear, which does not dwell in me.

9) I will live the healthiest lifestyle I am able to. I am a tool for the Infinite Creator and I serve Him best when I am clean and healthy.

10) Preparing for a peaceful night’s sleep: At the end of the day, I will slow down and relax by reading, meditating, or taking a nice hot shower. Before falling asleep, I will spend time in contemplative prayer, reviewing how the day went. I think about what I might have done better. I keep an attitude of gratitude; being grateful for the day, the opportunities, and expressing Love for my family, friends, planet, and appreciating the Loving care I receive from Jesus and the Infinite Creator each and every moment of every day.

Being honest with my visitors, I realize these daily goals are exactly that... goals. Some days I do so well and other days are just plain challenging or almost impossible. I always give myself a pat on the back for the effort and recommit to do better tomorrow, God willing.

Dealing with COVID-19 and being a stay-at-home Caregiver for my terminally ill spouse is very challenging for me. I can’t just hop on my bike and go for a ride. I can’t just put on my mask and head out the door for a walk when things get to be a bit too much. I’m locked in, a prisoner of our current circumstances. I get no breaks from Caregiving or time away. No respite.

I have to focus on being the best healthy Caregiver I can be or else my husband won’t get the best care. If anything happens to me, we are both going to be in trouble. I don't know if I could forgive myself if I allowed fatigue and grieving to affect me to the point that I let us both down.

I have had to figure out ways to create a healthy environment for the two of us under stay-at-home orders by our governor. I am responsible for our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. Not something I take lightly!

When in nature, I feel my best. Being close to God's creations makes me feel close to Him. So I have to take mini-mental vacations since I'm stuck at home. I enjoy a quote by John Muir that helps me to do just that. Many have never heard of John Muir before (or if they have, he was probably misquoted).

Here’s the Wikipedia description for John, “John Muir is also known as "John of the Mountains" and "Father of the National Parks", was an influential Scottish-American naturalist, author, environmental philosopher, glaciologist, and early advocate for the preservation of wilderness in the United States of America.

John Muir was intrigued by the natural beauty of the West and wanted to preserve it for future generations. We have him to thank for helping bring attention to the preservation and establishment of our national parks.

Walk away quietly in any direction and taste the freedom of the mountaineer. Camp out among the grasses and gentians of glacial meadows, in craggy garden nooks full of nature's darlings. Climb the mountains and get their good tidings, Nature's peace will flow into you as sunshine flows into trees. The winds will blow their own freshness into you and the storms their energy, while cares will drop off like autumn leaves. As age comes on, one source of enjoyment after another is closed, but nature's sources never fail. ~ John Muir, Our National Parks, 1901, Page 56.

You can pick up a copy of John Muir's book here.

During these challenging times, how do you take breaks away from the overwhelming challenges of daily life with COVID-19? Do you have rules that you live by that help you navigate your journey safely and with dignity? With or without Coronavirus, life is filled with challenges. Please share in the comments below how you cope with stress so we can all benefit from your experience.

Be well, be blessed.